First Session LO Motivation for Path 3 Based on LI Ability to Change

First Session LO is Clear About Divorce

First Session When Leaning In Is More Leaning Out

Handling Recent Affair in Discernment Counseling

Past Affair With Prior Recovery Attempts

Micro Skills for Managing Talkative LO or LI in Individual Conversations

Managing the Perfect Leaning Out Spouse When LI Admits Hard Problems Like Affair or Addiction

LI Owns No Contributions

When LI Accepts All the Responsibility — What to Do With LO

First Session LI Adamant I Have Real Needs Too

First Session When The Couple Is Already Separated

A Note from Elizabeth on Skills

Session One Skill 1 LO Shifting the Focus from the Relationship Complaint Narrative to Discernment About the Future

Session One Skill 2 LO Challenging the My Spouse Cannot Change Narrative

Session One Skill 3 LO How to Leverage Impressions of the LI in Conversations with the LO

Session One Skill 4 LO Responding to We’ve Tried and Failed at Therapy

Session One Skill 6 LO How to First Introduce the Question of the LO’s Contributions to the Problems

Session One Skill 9 LO How to Help the LO Prepare the Sharing with the Spouse

Session One Skill 1 LI How to Initially Shift from What’s Happening is Terrible to What Can I Do