The second question in the first assessment session of discernment counseling is designed to explore what the couple has attempted to do to fix their marital problems. This lesson explains the rationale behind the question “What have you tried to do to fix the problems in your marriage so that you didn’t get to the point where divorce is a possibility?” and provides guidelines for effectively using this question in your sessions.
The Question:
“What have you tried to do to fix the problems in your marriage so that you didn’t get to the point where divorce is a possibility? It may be something you’ve done individually or together, with help or on your own. So who would like to start?”
Rationale:
Assumption of Repair Attempts:
Permission to Share Various Efforts:
Gathering Information:
Guidelines for Using the Question:
Initial Presentation:
Listening and Note-Taking:
Allowing Corrections:
Exploring Therapy Experiences:
Filing Information for Later Use:
Tips for Effective Use:
Conclusion:
The question "What have you tried to do to fix the problems in your marriage so that you didn't get to the point where divorce is a possibility?" is essential for understanding the couple's past repair attempts and their experiences with therapy. By following the guidelines and tips provided in this lesson, you can effectively use this question to gather valuable information and set the stage for productive discernment counseling sessions. This approach ensures that both partners have the opportunity to share their perspectives and that the session remains focused on the most critical issues.