Third Session When to Accept a Path Two Decision

DC 2025 Third Session When to Accept a Path Two Decision

By session three of discernment counseling, the leaning-out partner has typically received a sufficient dosage of counseling to make an informed decision about their relationship. This session is crucial for accepting the leaning-out partner’s decision on path two (divorce) if they have done their work and are confident in their choice.

Key Points:

Progress in Discernment Counseling:

By session three, the leaning-out partner has had ample time to reflect on their marriage, their contributions, and the interaction patterns.
The therapist has challenged their divorce narrative and encouraged self-reflection.

Assessing Readiness for Decision:

If the leaning-out partner expresses a lack of hope or confidence in improving the marriage, the therapist will assess whether they have achieved clarity and confidence in their decision.
The therapist will challenge the leaning-out partner to ensure they have fully explored their contributions and the possibility of path three (couples therapy).

Accepting the Decision:

If the leaning-out partner has done their work and is confident in their decision, the therapist will accept their choice of path two.
The therapist will not force path three but will ensure that the leaning-out partner has thoroughly explored their options.

Final Conversation:

The therapist will have a final conversation with the leaning-out partner about communicating their decision to their spouse and implementing the divorce process.
The therapist may suggest taking another week to confirm the decision, emphasizing the lifelong impact of divorce.

Therapist's Role:

The therapist does not have a vote in the leaning-out partner's decision but supports them in making an informed choice.
The therapist's interaction shifts to supporting the leaning-out partner in implementing their decision and moving forward.

Conclusion:

Accepting the leaning-out partner's decision on path two in session three involves assessing their readiness, ensuring they have done their work, and supporting their choice if they are confident in their decision. The therapist plays a crucial role in challenging the leaning-out partner's narrative, encouraging self-reflection, and ultimately accepting their decision while providing support for the next steps.

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