Third Session Goals with LO

DC 2025 Third Session Goals with LO

Session three in discernment counseling is a critical point for working with the leaning-out partner, aiming to solidify their understanding of relationship patterns and their contributions to the problems. This session focuses on helping the leaning-out partner take in new information and expand their divorce narrative.

Key Points:

Taking in New Information:

Help the leaning-out partner absorb new insights about relationship patterns and their own contributions to the problems.
Encourage them to see the relationship in a more complex way, moving beyond simplistic divorce narratives such as "the other person can never change" or "I've done everything I can."

Expanding the Divorce Narrative:

Assist the leaning-out partner in expanding their divorce narrative to include a more nuanced understanding of the relationship.
Encourage them to recognize the interaction patterns and their own role in contributing to the problems.

Addressing Stagnation:

If the leaning-out partner is stuck and not making progress, be prepared to increase the intensity of the session.
Ensure that the leaning-out partner is accomplishing the goals of discernment counseling, such as looking at their own contributions and expanding their narrative.

Bringing Intensity:

If the leaning-out partner is not showing signs of progress by the end of session three, intensify the session to facilitate breakthroughs.
Recognize that if significant insights (light bulbs) are not occurring by the end of session three, they are unlikely to occur later.

Conclusion:

The goals for working with the leaning-out partner in session three involve helping them take in new information about relationship patterns and their contributions, expanding their divorce narrative, and addressing any stagnation. By increasing the intensity if necessary, therapists can facilitate breakthroughs and ensure that the leaning-out partner is on track to making informed decisions about their relationship.

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