Third Session Who To Start With And Why

DC 2025 Third Session Who To Start With And Why

In session three of discernment counseling, the decision on who to start with in individual times depends on various factors, including the partners’ progress in discernment, their levels of distress, and the therapist’s working relationship with each partner. This decision is crucial for maintaining effectiveness and ensuring both partners feel supported.

DC Handout - Complete Guide to Session Three

Key Points:

Progress and Decision-Making:

Prioritize starting with the partner who is struggling more with their discernment journey.
If the leaning-out partner is uncertain about their path or leaning more towards divorce, start with them to address their uncertainty and provide support.

Levels of Distress:

Assess which partner is experiencing more distress, impatience, or turbulence.
Prioritize the partner who is more upset or distressed, as they may need immediate attention and support.

Therapist's Working Relationship:

Consider the therapist's relationship with each partner. If there have been challenges in the working relationship with one partner, prioritize addressing those issues first.
Ensure that the working relationship with each partner is strong and supportive.

Criteria for Decision-Making:

Base the decision on the partner's discernment journey, their level of distress, and the therapist's relationship with them.
Keep in mind that getting in sync with the partners is crucial for the session's effectiveness.

Switching Partners:

If neither partner is showing significant turbulence or distress, and the therapist's relationship with both is strong, consider switching the order from the previous session.
Simply state the intention to switch without providing a reason, such as "I like to switch it up this time."

Conclusion:

Determining who to start with in individual times during session three involves considering the partners' progress in discernment, their levels of distress, and the therapist's working relationship with each partner. By prioritizing the partner who is struggling more or experiencing more distress, and addressing any challenges in the working relationship, therapists can ensure an effective and supportive session. If the situation is stable, switching the order from the previous session can also be a viable option.

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