This lesson addresses two challenging leaning in scenarios in discernment counseling: the “this isn’t fair” stance and the “higher ethical standards” stance. It emphasizes the importance of ethical considerations and pragmatic approaches in working with these clients.
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Scenario 1: "This isn't Fair":
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Scenario 2: "Higher Ethical Standards":
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Working with challenging leaning-in scenarios involves affirming their feelings and ethical stances while shifting their focus to their larger goal of preserving the marriage. By validating their experiences and challenging their perspectives pragmatically, therapists can support leaning in partners in becoming more effective champions for their marriage, fostering a more productive discernment process.