When the leaning out (LO) spouse presents divorce as freedom or liberation, it is essential to handle this attitude with empathy, understanding, and a strategic approach. This handout provides guidance on how to manage this presentation in the first session of discernment counseling.
Key Points:
Understanding the Presentation:
Empathy and Validation:
Unpacking the Idea of Freedom:
Probing for Affair or Fantasy:
Normalizing and Exploring:
Deconstructing the Attitude:
Encouraging Complex Thinking:
Tips for Effective Intervention:
Conclusion:
Handling the situation where the LO spouse views divorce as freedom requires empathy, validation, and a strategic approach. By unpacking the idea of freedom, probing for affairs or fantasies, normalizing and exploring, deconstructing the attitude, and encouraging complex thinking, you can effectively manage this presentation and help the LO spouse consider the complexities of their life choices and commitments.