Sometimes one or both individuals in a marriage on the brink really can't take a look in the mirror at anything they've done. The upside to Discernment Counseling is you neither have to doom their marriage nor pursue couples therapy with them. Take some time to watch this video and learn more.

Navigating Couples on the Brink: The Power of Discernment Counseling

Couples therapy can be challenging, especially when one partner is leaning out of the relationship while the other is desperately seeking to salvage it. In these scenarios, traditional couples therapy often falls short, leaving therapists and clients feeling frustrated and stuck in a cycle of discontent. However, a specialized approach offers a beacon of hope in these murky waters: Discernment Counseling.

Understanding the Challenge

In the world of therapy, few situations are as daunting as working with couples teetering on the brink of divorce. One partner may be emotionally checked out, unwilling to confront their own role in the relationship's struggles, while the other is fervently grasping for any lifeline to save what remains of their connection.

The Role of Discernment Counseling

Enter Discernment Counselinga meticulously crafted approach developed by seasoned therapists like Bill Doherty, co-founder of the Doherty Relationship Institute. Unlike traditional couples therapy, Discernment Counseling operates with a laser focus on individual introspection and accountability within the relationship dynamic.

A Laser-Focused Approach

At the heart of Discernment Counseling lies a commitment to helping both partners confront their individual contributions to the negative patterns within the relationship. Through a series of sessions conducted separately and together, couples are guided through self-reflection and introspection.

Preventing Half-Hearted Therapy

One of the primary aims of Discernment Counseling is to prevent what Doherty aptly terms "half-hearted couples therapy." By ensuring that both individuals are fully committed to examining their behaviors and attitudes, therapists can avoid the frustration of embarking on therapy sessions that lack genuine investment from both parties.

The End Result

The ultimate goal of Discernment Counseling is clarity. Whether it's a renewed commitment to the relationship with a shared understanding of each partner's role or a mutual decision to part ways amicably, the journey through Discernment Counseling paves the way for resolution without the lingering sense of frustration.


In couples therapy, Discernment Counseling stands as a beacon of hope for those navigating the tumultuous waters of relationship discord. By fostering individual introspection and accountability within the context of the relationship, therapists equipped with this specialized approach can guide couples towards a path of clarity and resolution, sparing them the anguish of half-hearted endeavors.