One Spouse Doesn’t Want Therapy But Is In Your Office. What To Do?

We’ve all been there. A couple enters the office for an intake. During the session (or worse, at the end during the final “doorknob blitz” of information), one of the spouses admits they don’t really feel a need for couples therapy. You freeze. This spouse is NOT suggesting divorce. They are simply stating they’re not into this […]

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Can Couples Therapy Work on Ambivalence Towards the Marriage?

Some therapists feel they’re great couples therapy advocates. They can smoothly and eloquently “sell” their skills and the positive outcomes they’ve seen over the years. This may all be true but for someone not sure they want the marriage, you can bounce along for a few sessions until the reality of where they’re at emotionally […]

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Discernment Counseling Networker Article

This is a new Psychotherapy Networker article that best summarizes the place of Discernment Counseling in contemporary culture and in the world of psychotherapy.  At the request of the editor, it also deals head on with a morally ambiguous area for many therapists: whether to work vigorously to support the marriage of an on-the-brink couple […]

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Discernment Counseling For Couples Therapists

How to do Discernment Counseling for Couples on the Brink of Divorce The dirty little secret of couples therapy is we have great models and protocols that work for couples who want to actively work on their marriage.What happens when one person is mostly out the door and the other is desperate to save the marriage?We […]

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