Why doesn’t one size fit all?

In the dynamic field of therapy, the concept of one-size-fits-all models often falls short. As a co-founder of the Doherty Relationship Institute, I've witnessed firsthand the limitations of adhering strictly to one theory or approach. Each relationship is unique, with its own complexities and nuances, demanding a flexible and personalized approach to therapy.

How the Doherty Relationship Institute is different:

At our institute, we advocate for the recognition that no single model can adequately address the diverse needs of every couple. While many therapists may adopt an eclectic approach, we've found profound value in introducing Discernment Counseling—a targeted, short-term protocol designed to support individuals navigating the complexities of marriage.

Discernment Counseling offers a structured and carefully curated framework, providing therapeutic assistance to couples in flux—those leaning out of the marriage and those leaning into it. What sets this approach apart is its ability to cater to the specific circumstances of each couple while empowering therapists to leverage their expertise and beliefs about marriage dynamics.

For clinicians seeking to expand their therapeutic repertoire without compromising their foundational principles, Discernment Counseling offers a compelling solution. It allows therapists to extend tailored support to couples while maintaining fidelity to their preferred methodologies and philosophies.

What’s to gain?

By embracing Discernment Counseling, therapists can engage with couples at their current relational juncture, fostering a deeper understanding of the complexities at play. This approach encourages individuals to confront their personal contributions to the relationship's challenges and take ownership of their roles in its evolution.

If you're a clinician intrigued by the prospect of offering innovative support without abandoning your core beliefs, Discernment Counseling presents an exciting opportunity. It enables you to meet couples where they are, honoring their unique narratives while drawing upon your expertise to facilitate meaningful change.

In essence, Discernment Counseling embodies the ethos of personalized therapy—a recognition that every relationship journey is distinct and warrants a tailored approach. By embracing this paradigm, therapists can enrich their practice, empower couples, and foster lasting relational growth.


As the therapeutic landscape continues to evolve, it's imperative to embrace approaches that prioritize individuality and flexibility. Discernment Counseling stands at the forefront of this evolution, offering a beacon of hope for couples navigating the complexities of modern relationships.