Discernment Counseling is not like a consultation or coaching approach. The fast, deeply interactional analysis required of the therapist is intense. It takes a couples therapist to move quickly to help couples get relational insights they have very likely never gotten even from long term individual therapy. In other words, it takes a skilled couples therapy to assess what’s going with the relationship and each partner’s contributions to the problems—and to help them see this. This is deep, intense work—although it’s not about trying to change the couple’s relationship right now.