Therapists love Discernment Counseling, but what about the participants? In this video we talk briefly again about the goals of this service, and how it is useful to both individuals, even if the marriage ends in divorce.

The Transformative Power of Discernment Counseling

In relationship therapy, Discernment Counseling has emerged as a beacon of hope for couples navigating the tumultuous waters of marital strife. Developed by Bill Doherty, co-founder of the Doherty Relationship Institute, this approach offers couples on the brink of divorce a chance to find clarity, confidence, and a deeper understanding of the future of their relationship.

Clarity Amidst Chaos:

Discernment Counseling aims to provide couples with a clear path forward, regardless of their ultimate decision about their relationship. Through one-to-one sessions with a therapist, individuals can explore their thoughts and emotions in a safe space, gaining insights into their own contributions to the problems within the marriage.

Understanding the Dynamics:

One of the hallmarks of Discernment Counseling is its focus on understanding the dynamics of the relationship. By delving into the root causes of marital discord, couples can better understand what went wrong and how each partner has contributed to the issues at hand.

Empowerment Through Insight:

Armed with newfound clarity and understanding, couples are empowered to make informed decisions about their relationship's future. Whether they choose to embark on couples therapy to work towards reconciliation or decide to pursue divorce, Discernment Counseling equips them with the tools they need to move forward with confidence.

Embracing Enlightenment:

Even if the journey through Discernment Counseling doesn't lead to reconciliation, couples often report feeling a sense of enlightenment and growth. This newfound wisdom can be carried forward into future relationships, allowing individuals to build healthier connections based on their experiences and insights gained during counseling.


In relationship therapy, Discernment Counseling stands out as a beacon of hope for couples in crisis. By offering clarity, understanding, and empowerment, this approach guides individuals through the tumultuous process of deciding the fate of their relationship with compassion and empathy.