We are often asked about using Discernment Counseling on cohabitating couples. The Brink Project has discussed this and the answer is no. The clinical focus and underlying research on Discernment Counseling is on couples who are married (or with the same kind of original life time commitment). (Of course, therapists are free to adapt parts of DC as they wish for non-committed couples). This brief video spells out how Bill sees these topic. Watch to learn more.

Understanding the Nuances of Couples on the Brink: A Guide to Discernment Counseling

When couples find themselves on the precipice of separation, the distinction between those who are married and those who are not is profound. Dr. Bill Doherty, co-founder of the Doherty Relationship Institute, sheds light on this disparity and offers insight into each type of couple's unique challenges.

The Commitment Divide:

Dr. Doherty delineates between couples who have exchanged vows and those who have not. For married couples, the commitment to permanence carries weight, shaping their identities and futures. Conversely, unmarried couples may need more than this definitive pledge, theoretically making their decision to part ways less complicated.

The Ethical Promise:

Marriage entails more than a legal contract; it is a moral commitment to support and cherish one another. Dr. Doherty emphasizes the ethical obligation inherent in marriage, suggesting that the dissolution of such unions demands a higher level of consideration and effort.

The Role of Discernment Counseling:

In navigating these tumultuous waters, Dr. Doherty advocates for a specialized approach known as Discernment Counseling. Unlike traditional therapy, which may adopt a uniform strategy for all couples, Discernment Counseling acknowledges the unique circumstances of those who have pledged lifelong devotion.

Conclusion:

Couples teetering on the brink of separation inhabit a complex landscape influenced by the nature of their commitment. By recognizing and honoring these distinctions, therapists can provide tailored support that aligns with the values and challenges specific to each couple.