A key goal in Discernment Counseling is that both people, no matter the outcome for their marriage, fill in the gaps to what happened to their marriage and each of their roles. Learn more about how Discernment Counseling helps fill in these gaps by watching this video.

Unlocking Clarity and Confidence: The Complexity of Relationship Narratives

Narratives often remain incomplete in the tumultuous landscape of struggling marriages, offering only a partial understanding of the underlying issues. Dr. Bill Doherty, co-founder of the Doherty Relationship Institute, sheds light on this phenomenon, highlighting the crucial role of discernment counseling in unraveling the complexities of marital discord.

The Lean-Out and Lean-In Dynamic

common dynamic emerges within troubled marriages: the lean-out partner and the lean-in partner. This disparity in commitment often leads to divergent perspectives on the relationship's challenges, further complicating the narrative.

The Peril of One-Sided Narratives

Individual therapy, while valuable, may inadvertently reinforce one-sided narratives by lacking direct access to both spouses. This can perpetuate a distorted view of the relationship, hindering the path to resolution.

Enter Discernment Counseling

Discernment counseling, a specialized approach pioneered by Dr. Doherty, offers a unique opportunity to delve into the intricacies of troubled relationships. By fostering a deeper understanding of each person's role in the marital drama, discernment counseling aims to cultivate clarity and confidence in charting the way forward.

Embracing Complexity for Growth

Central to discernment counseling is cultivating a more nuanced narrative that acknowledges the multifaceted nature of relationship dynamics. Through this process, individuals gain insights into their active agency in shaping the relationship's trajectory.

A Path to Healing

Whether the ultimate decision is divorce or a commitment to couples therapy, the journey through discernment counseling equips individuals with invaluable insights. By embracing the complexity of their narratives, they pave the way for growth, learning, and the potential for transformative change.

Conclusion: The Power of Narrative Reconstruction

In troubled marriages, incomplete narratives can obscure the path to resolution. Discernment counseling offers a beacon of hope, guiding individuals toward a deeper understanding of their relationships and themselves. By unlocking the complexities of their stories, they embark on a journey of healing, growth, and newfound clarity.